Your beliefs steer everything.
Good or bad, what you believe will impact what happens to you, every day.
You may have heard the saying “If you knew how powerful your thoughts were, you would never think another negative thought”. What we think and what we believe can propel us towards a particular outcome. Unfortunately, this isn’t only true with positive thoughts.
We all have unsupportive beliefs which are referred to as “sabotaging beliefs”. These beliefs create an emotion within us which drive us to behave a certain way. This is where we subconsciously use these behaviours to ensure our lives live up to the sabotaging belief (because as humans, we often would rather be right, than be happy… ridiculous right?).
A great example of a relatively common sabotaging belief is “I’m not good enough”. You may not walk around thinking “I’m not good enough, I’m not good enough” every day, this is what our subconscious behaviours (known as sabotaging strategies) are for. Instead, you may think “I’m not as good as John at this job” or “Dianne is stronger than I am, I won’t be able to keep up with her at the gym”. You might tell yourself that you feel weak today, or you feel a bit of a niggle which means you can’t do your best. These are just a few subconscious strategies. We use a lot of strategies to ensure we maintain our sabotaging belief, and the more we do, the more that belief gains traction and creates a really crappy cycle.
Here’s a common example: athletes who don’t believe they are good enough to reach the top of their competition can often find they will get injured in the lead up to or during an event. So they spend time stressing out about how this injury will hold them back in future events, not just this one. Eventually they resume training for the next competition, meanwhile thinking, “what happens if I get injured again” or “what if I’ve missed my chance?”. As the next competition approaches, these thoughts can be more prevalent and lead to another injury or poor outcome in the event.
But do you think Tiger Woods ever went to take a swing and thought “what if I don’t get the ball close enough to the hole?”. NO. And that is why he has been so successful.
How can you succeed if you are constantly sabotaging yourself??
You can’t.
So change.
Get clear on HOW you are sabotaging yourself (and to be perfectly blunt, if you have never done any personal development: there WILL be some sabotaging beliefs for you to work on). Sometimes you won’t see it because you are so enrolled in it or because it’s subconscious. With coaching, we bring the subconscious behaviours to the conscious so that we can work on changing them and create Success Strategies instead to drive you towards Success.